CHAPTER
FOUR
STRATEGIC
PARENTING
The
use of words is a Biblical strategy in parenting. The words you speak to your
children go a long way in shaping their lives and destinies. Your words create
your harvest in every area of life.
Words
are seeds and when spoken are planted in your life, your children's lives and
destinies. Your children are your crown, nurture them with right words.
i.
Speaking Into Their Future
Your
words serve as conditioning environment for the potentials of your children. If
you want to see their great future, speak positive words to them continually,
words that will propel them to achieve their utmost in life.
When
you speak, power is released. You must realize that God is waiting to collect
and act on your words. (Job
6:25, Numbers 14:28)
Pause
for a minute and imagine God actually doing to your children every single thing
you said to them and about them. What you say are not empty words.
God
takes you seriously; it is high time therefore for you to take yourself and
what you say very seriously.
Protect
the destiny of your children don't say things that will affect their future
negatively. Don't snarl at them.
It
is more constructive to speak gently to your children and wards than to scream
at them. Hard and harsh words kill something inside a child. Children who grow
in harsh environments tend to be timid and portray a lack of self-confidence in
their adult lives.
Sanitize
their lives and destiny with healthy words and teach them to always speak right
words no matter what is to the contrary.
Words
are the molding blocks of your children's destiny.
Say
only what God says about your children and refuse the tendency to describe or
call them by the erroneous things that they do from time to time.
Respond
to issues, don't react to them. Reaction to a negative incidence will generate
more evil but when you respond, you impose positivity and consequently, subdue
the evil.
Words
of truth, once spoken, have a way of piercing hearts and minds.
It
is immaturity for any adult to stoop to the level of a child's infantile
behavior and deal with him or her at that same level. Instead of reacting at
the same level, respond from a higher level with love.
On
no account should you speak evil, destructive and discouraging words to your
children.
Your
words serve as conditioning environment for the potentials of your children.
Create positive and empowering environment for them by speaking words of prophecy
that inspire their hearts and provoke their hidden abilities. Always be
positive in your approach to them. What you call your children is what they
eventually turn out to be.
Say
to your children, "It shall be well with you. You will not be small. You
are destined for greatness. You are wonderfully and fearfully made to show
forth the praises of your God. You are excellent. The top is calling for
you." Continue to call forth the manifestation of the ability that is
locked up in them. Inside your child are awesome potentials. Don't despise or
look down on any child, no matter his mistakes and errors. Your children are
the generation next. Start celebrating them today. Make up your mind to speak
them to the peak.
God
gave you a precious seed to nurture, don't pollute or damage it by showing
wrong words into his/her soul.
Ben
Carson is a household name in the world of medicine because his mother kept
talking until she saw all she said happen in her children's lives.
Hard
and harsh words kill something inside a child.
You
must consciously work on your children to weed out every negative seed from
their minds. What your children think is what ultimately rules their lives.
Do
you even believe in your children? If you do, it will show in your actions and
behavior towards them.
You
can frame the world of your child by your words.
Someone
said,
"Watch
your thoughts, they become words,
Watch
your words, they become actions,
Watch
your actions, they become habits,
Watch
your habits, they become character,
Watch
your character, it becomes your destiny."
As
a parent, you are a mentor, monitor and molder. Children are inspired by what
you do more than they are guided by what you say.
ii. The
Place of Prayer
Prayer
is very necessary in building up children; praying for them is a lifetime
project.
What
is it about your children that you want? Pray it into existence. With prayer
you can birth your children into their destinies.
There
is no specific time to start praying for them, you can start right from when
they are in the womb. Every stage of their life requires prayer, you have to
travail in prayer until Christ is fully formed in them.
The
prayer you will pray for them at age one can still keep them at age ten.
If
you see your children as assets, you will not need anybody to cajole you to
pray for them.
Source: Biblical Principles Of Parenting (Chapter 4)
Copyright © 2011 by Mary A. Abioye
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